Leader's task list

Usually we start learning by understanding the theory. But when we actually learn naturally we start learning by having a clear image of what we will be able to do when the learning is done. This is where we start.

When I am a leader:

I am aware


I hear what people are saying and see what they are doing without being hijacked by my thoughts, projections, prejudices, expectations, emotions so I can gather valid information about the person and situation.

I hear what I am saying and see what I am doing without being hijacked by my thoughts, projections, prejudices, expectations, emotions so I can gather valid information about the person and situation.

I separate my thoughts (desires, projections, prejudices, interpretations) from what I observe and I am aware of them without being hijacked by them.

I feel my emotions, I am aware of them without being overwhelmed by them or disconnected from them.

I listen to the thoughts and emotions other people are experiencing and help them articulate them without being overwhelmed by them or disconnected from them.

I relate to influence

I create, maintain, assess and fix the relationship I have with each person in order for the person to welcome collaboration in influence:

I make myself known

  • I add subtitles to my actions, thoughts and emotions

  • I ask for and listen to the other’s subtitles

  • I act responsibly in collaboration

  • I am honest

  • I act with integrity

I create safeness and safety

  • I keep myself safe

  • I keep others safe

  • I coach people to stay safe in collaborations

  • I take responsibility

  • I make just decisions

  • I check and intervene in reactions to threat

I collaborate

  • I am available to collaborate

  • I say explicitly what I want and don’t want

  • I ask and listen to what other people want and don’t want

  • I influence movement (see actions at Influencing motion)

I care

  • I demonstrate care for people’s needs and well-being

  • I connect with people and create meaningful relationships

  • I make a generous assumption about people


I influence motion


I observe the motion of people, I observe what they do, when, how they do their tasks objectively. I see them and hear them and collect information also