I own my body. My body will move if I MOVE IT.
Unless you want to push, pull or do everything by yourself (laissez-faire leadership) you need to lead a person to WANT TO MOVE.
How does a person WANT TO MOVE?
First you need to know the person. You need to practice awareness and curiosity when interacting and observing the person. If you really see and listen to people they will show and tell you everything you need to know about what MOVES them.
People move because certain forces act on them or in them.
The forces that influence people's movement are EMOTIONS (Energy for motion). People are moved or they move their body to do something by the ENERGY created by the motivators to move.
Motives become MOTIVATORS and create Energy for MOTION (emotion)
If a motive is relevant, meaningful or pleasurable for a person it creates a feeling/emotion. What is relevant, meaningful or pleasurable for a person depends on:
- the context
- the moment
- the person in the context and the moment
So, in order for a motive to become a motivator and create a feeling (a force) we need to bring awareness about the relevance, meaning or sensations the motive creates in a person.
In doing this you need to bring awareness to HOW IT FEELS when that motive is present or absent. This is really important: It is about describing the EXPERIENCE a person has. By describing the experience people can IMAGINE how it will FEEL.
There are two types of feelings that can move a person:
- a distant feeling
- a present feeling
A distant feeling acts on desire to get or to avoid something. It is what we call transactional motivation. I MOVE now to get something or to avoid something after I stop moving. It is where I exchange the MOVEMENT for a feeling I will get once the MOVEMENT was performed.
I can move out of the desire (the feeling of desire) to feel what I am going to feel when I get a reward or what I am going to feel if I avoid losing a reward or avoid a cost. It is doing A to get B. The rewards could be salary, promotion, a fit body, approval or recognition, access to something, a certification, and so on)
I can move out of the desire (the feeling of desire) to "not feel bad". This is called "emotional blackmail". I move so I don't feel negative emotions now or if I didn't move. I transact movement for absence of negative feelings (shame, guilt, disappointment, disgust, anger, fear, envy and so on). It is not that I will feel good after I move, it is that I won't feel bad.
I can move to be able to then do a movement that is pleasurable for me or that brings the feeling of authenticity.
This is where we exchange an action so we can do another action that feels good in itself.
All these distant feelings are based on the principle that you exchange MOVEMENT for FEELING after the movement. Although they work they come with big costs and big risk